Confidence

Confidence

There’s much to be said about a man or woman who has confidence, because throughout our lives we are told negative things. Whether it is about how we look, talk, or view situations, we usually receive negative feedback from someone. It makes you wonder what it’s like to even see someone who is confident in who they are.

Negative situations arise all the time in our lives. It could be media related (things you see on television), things you tell yourself, or just from conversations with peers or relatives. You are judged or misdirected from your own thoughts at almost every turn. Why is it that you can’t stand on your own two feet and have your own opinions? It seems as time goes on that we become more dependent on being accepted in society. Society’s views of who we are make us change all the time. Being individualistic is frowned upon almost immediately when expressed in the open. We have conformed to uniformity so much that when someone produces a different outlook, we immediately speculate that they are “cocky” or are full of themselves.

Why does this person stand out? What makes them walk or talk so differently? It’s confidence! Confidence comes from the internal understanding that it doesn’t matter what people think about you, it only matters how you feel about yourself. It is knowing that you come from a celestial being that has made you so powerful that you can accomplish great feats that most are too scared to try. This feeling is so empowering that it makes your friends or family sometimes view you as cocky or different. As long as we acknowledge that we are given these abilities from a greater power, there’s no way we should feel bad or like an outcast. Confidence is one of the greatest feelings in the world!

Cockiness is defined as being boastful in arrogance, and typically comes from people who either have done nothing or have not given thanks to the higher power they received it from. Consequently, these types feel it is necessary to tell everyone what they have accomplished due to a feeling of inferiority or the lack of recognition from others. Confidence, on the other hand, is something that can be interpreted silently. If you have accomplished great things and exude confidence, you typically don’t have to even mention it, people will pick up on it regardless. Sadly, confidence will often be interpreted poorly by others because they don’t understand that mentality.

What I want you to take from this, is that there is negativity everywhere. A lot of times people will pull you down with their opinions, but that is irrelevant to your future. If you know that you have confidence and are thankful for your gifts, that’s all that matters. In turn, you must use your gifts to help others. All great leaders not only show that they are confident, but they induce it from others. Keep your mind positive and push yourself to the next level. Have a great week!!!

– Steve

True Vision

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There’s a lot to say about someone who has achieved something great. It takes great patience and an ample amount of foresight to achieve a dream. Think of the people you look up to that have achieved what you deem difficult or impossible. They all have a common theme among them. They had vision.

When you find what you love, that’s when your journey begins. As you move along through this vortex towards your end goal, you will be tested. Whether it comes from people’s opinions, tragedies, or certain circumstances, you will face adversity. Your vision must be the strongest during these times. There are so many distractions that try to sway us in a different path, and sometimes we lose sight of what we’re striving for. You must wake up every morning with a clear vision in mind and set goals for yourself that bring you that much closer. Failure will be a part of this process.

People have all kinds of dreams they throw away because their vision isn’t strong enough in critical moments. You must know what you want and be able to push yourself towards your vision. Again, failure will come regardless of what path you choose, so why not go down the path that leads to your reward. The beauty in failure is that it invokes character. There have been moments in my life where things didn’t work out, and that’s okay. The point is, never give up!

When I feel like things are going awry and I’m losing my vision, I always look to successful people for inspiration. Bill Gates was going to Harvard Univeristy, a really hard school to get into, when he decided that he would start a computer software company instead. I’m sure he was thought of as crazy and foolish to do so, but he had VISION. Winston Churchill, a man considered to be one of the best leaders of his time, was dismissed from his cabinet position as a result of his choice to attack Turkey around World War 1. The British lost miserably in this bout and Churchill was let go. If he had lost sight of his vision at that moment, he would have never came back to become the leader we know him to be. His VISION is what led him to become one of the greatest leaders of all time. Another inspirational story comes from the best selling author, J.K. Rowling. At the time she was beginning to write the Harry Potter series, she was a homeless single mother in England. She could have just given up at that point and quit on her dream. Instead, it was her VISION that led her to become one of the best selling authors of all time and one of only a few women to become a billionaire.

You only get one lifetime to achieve your dreams. Yes, it will take hard work and vision to see those dreams to the end. The question is, will you lose your vision along the way and give up, or will you keep going when times are tough? You have to see your destination clearly and know that you will do whatever it takes to get there. There is no difference between you and people who’ve reached the pinnacle of success. Your heroes followed their vision, and now it’s your turn! Have a good week!

– Steve

Be Careful the Company you Keep

Be Careful the Company you Keep

This is a touchy subject for some people, but it is necessary to talk about in order for you to see your full potential. What am I speaking of? I’m referring to the people you keep in your stead. What lives do they lead? Are they productive or destructive? These questions have to be asked because they are very important when it comes to the decisions you make. Who you surround yourself with, is who you will become. I myself am only where I am today because of who I met along my journey. This post will be my most revealing one, but I find when you try to help people, you must be honest. I’m going to share my journey with you and tell you how I came from a bad situation to turn my life around. This is my story. When I was in high school and even into my late teens, I used to hang out with people who sold and used drugs. At that time in my life, I had no guidance and no conscience. As far as I was concerned, my life would be just as my friends’ lives were. These so called “friends” used and abused drugs, and would steal from whomever in order to get a fix or get ahead.

In my mind, I thought I could sell drugs in order to pay for things instead of going to college to pursue an honorable trade. It was quicker and easier, so the decision was obvious. I sold drugs in hopes that I could make some quick deals and help my family without costing them money to send me to a school that I wasn’t even interested in attending. It wouldn’t be long before I started to notice how addicted and how ruthless my friends had become. They weren’t even smart in the way they went about selling drugs. They’d approach whoever and openly discuss buying and selling narcotics in broad daylight. In my mind, I thought that was the dumbest thing someone could do. After seeing this time and time again, it thwarted me in the direction of stopping this lifestyle and figuring out the right way to go.

As I was trying to figure out who I wanted to be, I met a young man by the name of Galen Godbey. He worked at the gym I went to and although I didn’t know it at the time, he’d change my life forever. He stood at 6’5″, and was bigger than most men I had seen in my entire life. I had just gotten into training after being overweight for most of my life. I remember thinking “What in the world did this man do to get to this size?”I remember him having a certain aura about him, like he was sure of himself and who he was. Yearning for that type of feeling in my own life, I had to find out more about him. So every time I was at the gym, I struck up a conversation with Galen. I would ask him what he ate, what strength program he followed, as well as a host of other things. He didn’t seem to mind all of my badgering, so I continued with my onslaught of questions. One day, I was going to his office like I normally would, but I noticed something was different. He told me that he would be departing in order to open his own facility. I, of course, was curious and had no hesitations in following this man into his next venture. I had no idea that it would be one of the best decisions of my life. I’m glad I never looked back.

It’s been 6 years and I’m still with Galen, and the venture he catapulted into has become two successful gyms. I quit running with the crowd I once ran with and am happy to report I currently am one year away from earning my bachelors degree. Throughout these years, I have learned more about who I am and who I want to become. I saw in Galen the type of person I wanted to be and quickly stopped talking to the people I once called friends. I now have new friends who share the same thoughts and goals I want to achieve. I share this with you because I come from an area where there’s nothing but trouble and drugs. The people I once ran with either went to jail or they never amounted to anything. It is important for you to find people who challenge you to become better. If you are better than the people you associate with, find new friends. It is pivotal to your success, to surround yourself with the best people you can find. You will be whoever you attach yourself to. You are not exempt and you are not too special to be around negativity and not become negative. You must know that you are worth more and that you must not stop until you get where you want to go. Have a good week!!!!

– Steve

Absolutely Relentless

Absolutely Relentless

I want to start this excerpt by asking you, do you have a dream? I have a dream and most people do. If you don’t know what it is, I suggest you look at what makes you the happiest in your life. What do you dream of? What scares you when the thought of failing comes up? What would make getting up at 5:00AM worth it for you? This conversation, in my opinion, is the most important one of your life. It will determine whether you live a happy life or spend your days making someone else’s dreams come true (i.e. your boss). What makes America the greatest country to live in is the fact that any individual can become whatever they want to be if they put in the work. With that being said, your work ethic will determine how far you will go with your dream. If you are lucky enough to find what it is that makes your life worth living, you must pursue it with every fiber in your body. There will be naysayers that will tell you that your dream will never be fruitful. If you can push that out and decide that you are going to pursue this, you must be ABSOLUTELY RELENTLESS. Know that your closest friends and family will be the first critics you encounter. This is part of the process, sadly. You have to know that it isn’t necessary for them to be behind you, you must see your future in your mind before it comes to fruition. Then, when you can see your future, you must attack every day with all the strength you can muster. There is no tomorrow as far as you’re concerned. Spend every minute you have striving for that goal. This is the only way to achieve what you are after, because timing is very important. Take chances and listen to your gut instinct. Furthermore, remember that failing will bring you that much closer to your goal. The most successful people in the world get up early and hammer out small goals repeatedly that get them that much closer to their dream. Being deterred is not an option. Write down your biggest goal and look at it every day, then set out steps to ensure that you get there. You must have a plan, and you must be in an all out pursuit every day the Lord gives you. You WILL fail, but that isn’t the time to give in. So many people have quit when they were so close to success. It took Thomas Edison 1,000 experiments on the light bulb to finally get it to work. If he had quit, the world would have missed out on one of the biggest life changers we’ve ever experienced. Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest NBA player of all time, was cut from his high school basketball team. It’s safe to say that he turned out to be a pretty good basketball player ;). The greatest achievers of all professions, had one thing in common. They were RELENTLESS! So, if you are just getting started or are about to quit, remember you must be willing to use all of your fortitude to get to your dream. Do not accept mediocrity and always shoot for the stars.

– Steve

 

Choosing Right

This post is for the people who are single and wondering what will happen next. We tend to live in a time where there’s a lot of people getting married and having kids very young in their lives. This is not a BAD thing whatsoever. As a matter of fact, if done right, it is the most beautiful part of life. With that being said, that is what this passage is about. Obviously there is no set guideline on finding “the one,” but here’s my stab at it, I hope it helps. I’m going to shed a little truth about my life, because if I’m not honest with you, then what credibility do I have? I have only been in a few relationships in my entire 25 years on earth, but what does that have to do with anything? I’m about to get to that. It wasn’t because I didn’t talk to a lot of girls, as a matter of fact talking comes pretty easy, thanks mom ;). Anyways, something I’ve found out in my short life, is that most people hate being alone whether they admit it or not. I myself, hate being alone. So consequently, people will get in a relationship on a whim because being alone sucks. I get that, I truly do, but here’s what you must realize. Can I really see myself being with this person? Did I give this enough time to know if this is a good decision? Here is what I think helps make this decision have its best shot at survival. Step one, take your time. This has been the hardest for me, because I am not a patient person by nature. If this person is right, they will stick around and see it through. Have faith in what is supposed to be. Step two, is this person a team player? This part is the most crucial to me, because I’m the type that is ambitious and wants to succeed in all facets of my life. Your partner needs to be your support system. They need to realize that your dreams were given to you for a reason. You owe it to everyone to pursue what you love, in order to be a light to guide others to do the same. Sadly, a lot of people you will date or may have dated, will try to talk you out of your dreams at times. The right person for you will know that this is something of the utmost importance and support you in your endeavor. Step three is something that I never thought of until my father told me. He told me to get to know her family because more than likely she will be very similar to them, especially as she matures. I thought it was crazy, but it is one of the truest things I’ve found. What you see in the parents will probably come out at some point in your significant other. By no means is this a bad thing, but it tends to be the case. With everything that has been said in this piece, I want you to know that your brain will help you in determining a lot of decisions in your life, but your heart is what true love is made from. I’ve followed my brain a lot in my life, but when I followed my heart, I found life to be richer in meaning. Be patient and look at the big picture. Do not waste your time or someone else’s because you are lonely. So, in closing, I want to encourage you to be patient enough to find who you’re meant to be with. Don’t be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. Find someone who you think about throughout the day, someone who pushes you, and someone you can’t see not being in your life. Most importantly, follow your heart and take risks. Love will always win in all categories of life. Have a good week!

Steve