To Live Like a Child (An Ode to Deklyn)

To Live Like a Child (An Ode to Deklyn)

This is my 2 year old nephew, Deklyn. Well, January 2nd is his birthday to be exact, but I digress. I’m already more proud of him than he could ever know, like he was my own son. I envy the way he approaches his life with the wonder of a new being in a new atmosphere. He’s constantly exploring his surroundings with the intent of finding out what things are. Sometimes, I even see him in his crib tossing and turning with intensity while he sleeps. I know that he is dreaming and moving around without delay in whatever world he is inhabiting at that time. He has always been so intent on finding out what things are that he won’t be stopped in completing his task. He climbs way too high on objects, he tries things he isn’t supposed to, and often he just seems too adventurous for his own good. Most people would think that he is a handful and could potentially become a “problem child”. When in reality, the way he approaches life is the way we all should.

What am I referring to, you ask? In life, it seems we lose sight of what makes us human as we get older because of the societal pressures placed upon us. We continue to be conformed in order to make things “easier” on our teachers, authority figures, etc. This is the way life is supposed to be right? Aren’t we supposed to do what we’re told until the day we die? Not in the slightest. I believe with everything in my core, that we were meant to do more. We were meant to challenge the status quo, reach for something greater, and live beyond the boundaries that were set for us by society.

We are told as children to stay in school and that eventually we’ll get a “good” job. We’re encouraged to get married, have kids, and stay at this “good” job until retirement or death. It seems as though we are put into this “cookie cutter” lifestyle because it is normal. Normality is so boring, yet, we are all trying to fit in. The Pavlovic conditioning we all face is the number one reason we fall into mediocrity. If we could just do as kids do and follow our desires, our hearts, our humanistic traits, how could we go wrong? The answer is, we couldn’t.

Humans are one of the greatest beings to ever exist because we reach for the stars, push boundaries, and love with everything in us. We’ve come from inventing fire and the wheel, to creating ways to get to the moon and studying astrological miracles. We’ve created anomalies throughout all of history, yet we still find a way to box ourselves in. Television, social media, and a host of other things are to blame for the fact that we are not in touch with each other or the natural world itself. It’s a shame that things are this way, but that’s what has arisen from this once great world we were provided with.

With this being said, there is a way out for you. I want you to approach your life in the way that Deklyn does. Approach life with your heart and not your head. Forget what people think about you, and be free in what you were intended to be. Shake the shackles that were placed on you at birth and shed the overwhelming anxiety that life has covered you in. You are children of God and have so much potential. Do you think he wanted you to live in a proverbial box of false contentment? The answer is no. You were meant to follow your heart and live life to its fullest potential. It has filled my heart with joy to deliver this to you, because you deserve to hear these words. Have a good week!

– Steve

Confidence

Confidence

There’s much to be said about a man or woman who has confidence, because throughout our lives we are told negative things. Whether it is about how we look, talk, or view situations, we usually receive negative feedback from someone. It makes you wonder what it’s like to even see someone who is confident in who they are.

Negative situations arise all the time in our lives. It could be media related (things you see on television), things you tell yourself, or just from conversations with peers or relatives. You are judged or misdirected from your own thoughts at almost every turn. Why is it that you can’t stand on your own two feet and have your own opinions? It seems as time goes on that we become more dependent on being accepted in society. Society’s views of who we are make us change all the time. Being individualistic is frowned upon almost immediately when expressed in the open. We have conformed to uniformity so much that when someone produces a different outlook, we immediately speculate that they are “cocky” or are full of themselves.

Why does this person stand out? What makes them walk or talk so differently? It’s confidence! Confidence comes from the internal understanding that it doesn’t matter what people think about you, it only matters how you feel about yourself. It is knowing that you come from a celestial being that has made you so powerful that you can accomplish great feats that most are too scared to try. This feeling is so empowering that it makes your friends or family sometimes view you as cocky or different. As long as we acknowledge that we are given these abilities from a greater power, there’s no way we should feel bad or like an outcast. Confidence is one of the greatest feelings in the world!

Cockiness is defined as being boastful in arrogance, and typically comes from people who either have done nothing or have not given thanks to the higher power they received it from. Consequently, these types feel it is necessary to tell everyone what they have accomplished due to a feeling of inferiority or the lack of recognition from others. Confidence, on the other hand, is something that can be interpreted silently. If you have accomplished great things and exude confidence, you typically don’t have to even mention it, people will pick up on it regardless. Sadly, confidence will often be interpreted poorly by others because they don’t understand that mentality.

What I want you to take from this, is that there is negativity everywhere. A lot of times people will pull you down with their opinions, but that is irrelevant to your future. If you know that you have confidence and are thankful for your gifts, that’s all that matters. In turn, you must use your gifts to help others. All great leaders not only show that they are confident, but they induce it from others. Keep your mind positive and push yourself to the next level. Have a great week!!!

– Steve

True Vision

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There’s a lot to say about someone who has achieved something great. It takes great patience and an ample amount of foresight to achieve a dream. Think of the people you look up to that have achieved what you deem difficult or impossible. They all have a common theme among them. They had vision.

When you find what you love, that’s when your journey begins. As you move along through this vortex towards your end goal, you will be tested. Whether it comes from people’s opinions, tragedies, or certain circumstances, you will face adversity. Your vision must be the strongest during these times. There are so many distractions that try to sway us in a different path, and sometimes we lose sight of what we’re striving for. You must wake up every morning with a clear vision in mind and set goals for yourself that bring you that much closer. Failure will be a part of this process.

People have all kinds of dreams they throw away because their vision isn’t strong enough in critical moments. You must know what you want and be able to push yourself towards your vision. Again, failure will come regardless of what path you choose, so why not go down the path that leads to your reward. The beauty in failure is that it invokes character. There have been moments in my life where things didn’t work out, and that’s okay. The point is, never give up!

When I feel like things are going awry and I’m losing my vision, I always look to successful people for inspiration. Bill Gates was going to Harvard Univeristy, a really hard school to get into, when he decided that he would start a computer software company instead. I’m sure he was thought of as crazy and foolish to do so, but he had VISION. Winston Churchill, a man considered to be one of the best leaders of his time, was dismissed from his cabinet position as a result of his choice to attack Turkey around World War 1. The British lost miserably in this bout and Churchill was let go. If he had lost sight of his vision at that moment, he would have never came back to become the leader we know him to be. His VISION is what led him to become one of the greatest leaders of all time. Another inspirational story comes from the best selling author, J.K. Rowling. At the time she was beginning to write the Harry Potter series, she was a homeless single mother in England. She could have just given up at that point and quit on her dream. Instead, it was her VISION that led her to become one of the best selling authors of all time and one of only a few women to become a billionaire.

You only get one lifetime to achieve your dreams. Yes, it will take hard work and vision to see those dreams to the end. The question is, will you lose your vision along the way and give up, or will you keep going when times are tough? You have to see your destination clearly and know that you will do whatever it takes to get there. There is no difference between you and people who’ve reached the pinnacle of success. Your heroes followed their vision, and now it’s your turn! Have a good week!

– Steve

Be Careful the Company you Keep

Be Careful the Company you Keep

This is a touchy subject for some people, but it is necessary to talk about in order for you to see your full potential. What am I speaking of? I’m referring to the people you keep in your stead. What lives do they lead? Are they productive or destructive? These questions have to be asked because they are very important when it comes to the decisions you make. Who you surround yourself with, is who you will become. I myself am only where I am today because of who I met along my journey. This post will be my most revealing one, but I find when you try to help people, you must be honest. I’m going to share my journey with you and tell you how I came from a bad situation to turn my life around. This is my story. When I was in high school and even into my late teens, I used to hang out with people who sold and used drugs. At that time in my life, I had no guidance and no conscience. As far as I was concerned, my life would be just as my friends’ lives were. These so called “friends” used and abused drugs, and would steal from whomever in order to get a fix or get ahead.

In my mind, I thought I could sell drugs in order to pay for things instead of going to college to pursue an honorable trade. It was quicker and easier, so the decision was obvious. I sold drugs in hopes that I could make some quick deals and help my family without costing them money to send me to a school that I wasn’t even interested in attending. It wouldn’t be long before I started to notice how addicted and how ruthless my friends had become. They weren’t even smart in the way they went about selling drugs. They’d approach whoever and openly discuss buying and selling narcotics in broad daylight. In my mind, I thought that was the dumbest thing someone could do. After seeing this time and time again, it thwarted me in the direction of stopping this lifestyle and figuring out the right way to go.

As I was trying to figure out who I wanted to be, I met a young man by the name of Galen Godbey. He worked at the gym I went to and although I didn’t know it at the time, he’d change my life forever. He stood at 6’5″, and was bigger than most men I had seen in my entire life. I had just gotten into training after being overweight for most of my life. I remember thinking “What in the world did this man do to get to this size?”I remember him having a certain aura about him, like he was sure of himself and who he was. Yearning for that type of feeling in my own life, I had to find out more about him. So every time I was at the gym, I struck up a conversation with Galen. I would ask him what he ate, what strength program he followed, as well as a host of other things. He didn’t seem to mind all of my badgering, so I continued with my onslaught of questions. One day, I was going to his office like I normally would, but I noticed something was different. He told me that he would be departing in order to open his own facility. I, of course, was curious and had no hesitations in following this man into his next venture. I had no idea that it would be one of the best decisions of my life. I’m glad I never looked back.

It’s been 6 years and I’m still with Galen, and the venture he catapulted into has become two successful gyms. I quit running with the crowd I once ran with and am happy to report I currently am one year away from earning my bachelors degree. Throughout these years, I have learned more about who I am and who I want to become. I saw in Galen the type of person I wanted to be and quickly stopped talking to the people I once called friends. I now have new friends who share the same thoughts and goals I want to achieve. I share this with you because I come from an area where there’s nothing but trouble and drugs. The people I once ran with either went to jail or they never amounted to anything. It is important for you to find people who challenge you to become better. If you are better than the people you associate with, find new friends. It is pivotal to your success, to surround yourself with the best people you can find. You will be whoever you attach yourself to. You are not exempt and you are not too special to be around negativity and not become negative. You must know that you are worth more and that you must not stop until you get where you want to go. Have a good week!!!!

– Steve